‘Self Confidence: the ability to trust or feel secure in yourself and your abilities’
Hands up, how many of you would describe yourself as confident? Whether it be giving a speech to an audience, asking someone out on a date, or just going into a shop in another country when you don’t speak the language very well, how do you get by?
If any of these scenarios would make you feel anxious then don’t worry, confidence is not something that is elusive or that only a few are blessed with, it is a quality that can be learned. And confidence is best when you build it for yourself, rather than hoping another person will give it to you. In counselling I find that many of my clients are struggling to feel confident in certain areas, so here is a basic tip you can try yourself at home:
I used this technique myself when I had an important oral examination to sit in front of a panel of doctors, and I can promise you that it works. The feedback I got from my examiners was one word: “impressive”. If you start rehearsing your confident behavior in your mind, your brain and body will soon start to believe it. So go ahead and impress yourself with your new confident identity!
If you are feeling stuck with your life and can’t see a way forward, then counselling can be helpful in providing support and a non-judgmental space to explore your options. For more in-depth help through counselling, consider contacting Dr Jules in person via the contact page on this website - Julie Askew PhD -